Inside all of us is a limitless well of love. This love is our true nature. When we operate from this space, we are the best version of ourselves. Sometimes, painful or challenging life experiences can cause us to lose touch with our true nature. When this happens, we may experience anxiety, depression, relationship discord or even physical illness.
When I first started out in private practice, I used to join my clients in trying to eliminate or "fix" what they identified as problems or symptoms. While this approach was often what folks thought they wanted (understandably--we all want a way out of pain), ultimately, it wasn't very effective. In fact, it was like pushing on a tree: the tree certainly wasn't going anywhere and neither was the therapy. So I changed gears. Instead of trying to fix pain, I started encouraging clients to turn toward it, to listen and to learn from it. Then something amazing happened: people started feeling significantly better!
Every transformation begins with mindfulness: the noticing of our thoughts and feelings. When given permission to be exactly where we are, we are then free to consider where it is we want to be. This is how real change occurs. I have seen this happen for many people. It can happen for you too!
Feelings and symptoms do not need fixing because they are not broken. Though they are most commonly experienced as problematic, painful feelings are actually our body’s way of encouraging us to notice what most needs the healing power of our own loving attention. When we are in pain, we are poised to slow down and take better care of ourselves. It is also when we are in pain that we are most open to the healing messages contained within each struggle. When we offer ourselves the gift of our own unconditional love, the pain that once held us back slowly transforms itself into greater contentment.
In therapy, I promise to work collaboratively with you to better understand your current situation and how it may be inviting you to access your highest self. Operating from your own true nature will result in a deeper, more satisfying relationship with yourself and, consequently, with others.
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