No matter where you are in your divorce story, you've come to the right place!
Every relationship has a natural ending. Some partners remain together until they are parted by death. Others are meant to be together only for a season. In both cases, an important purpose is served. Divorce is a sign that a relationship has fulfilled its intended purpose.
Divorce is the close of one chapter and the opening of another. Divorce counseling can help you write your next chapter.
Divorce is the close of one chapter and the opening of another. Divorce counseling can help you write your next chapter.
Separation Or Divorce Counseling Can Help If You...
- are contemplating separation but are still partnered
- are in the middle of separating or divorcing
- are legally divorced but struggling with ongoing logistical, financial or co-parent challenges*
*Please note that I see only individuals in my practice. If you are seeking assistance with a co-parent, I recommend Heather Harman Coaching.
People Seek Divorce Counseling With Me When They...
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After Divorce Counseling With Me, Clients Report...
- greater confidence to handle present & future divorce-related challenges
- more effective tools to communicate and/or set boundaries with their fellow co-parent
- better self-care and parenting practices
- greater clarity about who they are now and where they want to go
- a deeper sense of peace and calm
- relief from unwanted or intrusive thoughts about the most difficult parts of their separation or divorce story
- feeling hopeful about the future
If you feel called to write the next chapter of your story, I'm here to help.
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Schedule your free consultation today.The phone consultation is an opportunity for both of us to determine if what I offer is a good fit for your counseling needs. If it's a match, we will book the first appointment from there.
If either of us feels that someone with a different style or skillset would better serve you, I will help you find that person! Click the button below and fill out the contact form there. I will be in touch within one business day to book our call. *Please note that I see only individuals in my practice. For conjoint assistance, I recommend Heather Harman Coaching. |
Separation - Divorce - Death - Grief - Loss - Mid-life Transitions
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Featured Article
How To Build A Strong Co-parenting Relationship
(Even When You Don't Really Feel Like It)
Compartmentalization is the psychological curtain that slides closed when our feelings get too messy, uncomfortable, or inconvenient. Find compartmentalization and you will often find judgment--for the CEO who delivers inspirational speeches to shareholders from whom he is bilking millions. For the spouse who kisses her unsuspecting husband goodnight before heading downstairs to check the Tinder account. It’s easy to judge compartmentalization when it is used to facilitate subpar behavior.
But every card has two sides.
When used appropriately, compartmentalization can help divorcing spouses build and maintain a constructive co-parenting relationship.
Figuring out how to divide time with children, financial resources, and possessions can be a Herculean task, especially when we neither asked for nor wanted a divorce. Exes can easily become triggers or targets for our anger--sometimes even our rage.
Anger, like all dark emotions, serves a specific purpose.
In divorce, anger can help us forge the distance needed to heal the wounds of loss. Furthermore, when channeled appropriately, anger can fuel the rocket ship that propels us toward a new, post-divorce life.
But here’s where things get tricky.
The most reliable predictor of children’s post-divorce adjustment is how well they are (and continue to be) protected from adult feelings and conflicts.
In other words, the anger we need to feel in order to heal is the very emotion we must filter away from our children and out of our co-parenting relationship. Healthy compartmentalization helps give kids the needed space to work through their own divorce-related feelings, without feeling burdened by ours.
But every card has two sides.
When used appropriately, compartmentalization can help divorcing spouses build and maintain a constructive co-parenting relationship.
Figuring out how to divide time with children, financial resources, and possessions can be a Herculean task, especially when we neither asked for nor wanted a divorce. Exes can easily become triggers or targets for our anger--sometimes even our rage.
Anger, like all dark emotions, serves a specific purpose.
In divorce, anger can help us forge the distance needed to heal the wounds of loss. Furthermore, when channeled appropriately, anger can fuel the rocket ship that propels us toward a new, post-divorce life.
But here’s where things get tricky.
The most reliable predictor of children’s post-divorce adjustment is how well they are (and continue to be) protected from adult feelings and conflicts.
In other words, the anger we need to feel in order to heal is the very emotion we must filter away from our children and out of our co-parenting relationship. Healthy compartmentalization helps give kids the needed space to work through their own divorce-related feelings, without feeling burdened by ours.
